I want to support someone

Find a private place to have the conversation. Give reassurance that you are not going to be judgemental. Be sincere.

Explain that every individual is responsible for their own actions, and abuse is a choice.

Example: "We all have control over our actions. It’s not your fault, and you don’t have to carry the blame for someone else’s behavior."

Many women face the same struggle between cultural beliefs and their own well-being. Let them know they are not alone and that many others have found ways to seek help and move forward, even when it feels difficult to do so.

Example: "You are not alone in feeling this way. Many people struggle with similar cultural beliefs. There are people and services that can help you without judging or blaming you. when you are ready to take that step."

Cultural beliefs can evolve, and by taking steps to address abuse, the victim is part of a broader movement challenging harmful norms and creating a future where women are safe and respected.

Example: "Cultures can change, and by standing up for yourself, you’re helping to create a world where others won’t have to face the same violence. You have the strength to start that change for yourself and for others."

Start by recognizing that these beliefs are commonly held and that the person may have grown up hearing them. This validation helps the victim feel heard and understood without being judged.

Example: “I understand that in your community, child and forced marriages are accepted and common practices.”

Remind the victim that their health, safety, and peace are the priority. Let them know that they are valuable and have the right to live free from fear, violence, or harm.

Example: "Your safety and well-being are incredibly important. You deserve to live  without fear or pain, and no cultural belief should take that away from you. You have the right to be safe and respected."

Sometimes fear of judgment or backlash keeps victims from reporting abuse. Reassure them that there are safe, confidential options where they can seek help without others knowing if they aren’t ready to make their situation public.

Example: "If you’re worried about what others might say or think, there are ways to get help confidentially. Many organizations understand cultural pressures and will support you in ways that protect your privacy and dignity."

Offer to help them research such organisations

Gently mention that violence, including sexual violence, is never excusable, regardless of cultural norms. Emphasize that no one deserves to be abused or mistreated, and no cultural belief should ever justify harming someone.

Example: "Violence and abuse are never acceptable. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and no one has the right to harm you."

Reporting abuse can feel overwhelming, especially when cultural beliefs are strong. Encourage the victim to take small steps towards safety—whether it’s confiding in a trusted friend, seeking counseling, or reaching out to a helpline—without pressuring them into immediate action.

Example: "You don’t have to make big decisions right now. Even taking a small step, like  talking to someone you trust or reaching out to a support service, can help you feel more supported and safe. You deserve to have control over the next steps you take."

Help them reclaim their sense of self and autonomy. Often, cultural norms around men’s uncontrollable desires strip women of their agency, but remind the victim that they have the right to make choices about their own body, safety, and future.

Example: "You  have the right to make decisions about your own life and body. No one has the right to control you or make you feel powerless. You deserve to be in control of your own safety and well-being."